Trust is important and pivotal to any relationship that we may build; it is this trust in one another that forms the foundation of a really strong relationship and it is up to each and every one of us to help foster and develop this trust so that we can depend on each other. But most psychologists agree that most of us are deceitful from time to time for various reasons which often stem from a sense of insecurity.
This is not to imply that we all lie regularly and therefore cannot be trusted but rather that we must be upfront and honest with our better halves as this can help engineer an even closer relationship. And for the record, it is not possible for a person, to be honest, all of the time, just try doing so for a week and you will soon see what I mean. Anyway here are a few ways through which you can help build up that trust.
- Be honest with yourself: The first thing that you need to do is, to be honest with yourself; after all only when you understand your true motivations can you focus on building up the relationship with another person. You need to analyze your actions, find out what you did and the reasons behind it. And as always, this introspection should enable you to understand why you feel compelled to be less than honest with others and by doing so, you would be in a position to do something about it.
- Honesty matters: Honesty goes a long way in making any relationship strong; no one is asking you to be honest with your better half on just about everything but you can start with small ones so that it helps to develop the trust between the two of you.
- Actions speak louder: Ever heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words”? Well, it is apt when it comes to building trust; we have this tendency to judge others based on their actions. Given this, it is important that you stick to any promises you have made and carry out the tasks. This can help others to think that you can be relied upon and therefore can be trusted.
Trust is essential in the workplace too. An organization without trust will be full of backstabbing, paranoia and insecurity. If you work for a manager who doesn’t trust his or her people to correctly perform their role, the conditions at work will be gloomy. If the boss is constantly checking up on you, looking over your shoulder and reminding you to do this or that like a front seat driver work will be a drag every day. Colleagues who don’t trust one another will feel the need to be looking over their shoulders than doing any useful work. You’ll also find your eyes sliding to the nearest exit than on the work you should be doing.
Be upfront: You need to be upfront with others regarding your own feelings; for example, if you do not like something that the other person is doing then you need to tell them to quit it and that it is irritating to you. While it is true that you need to be considerate of others’ feelings, there is no reason that you have to put up with an activity or a dish that you intensely dislike. You can rehearse your words better so that it does not sound harsh but bottom line, make your feelings clear on the subject. In time, the other person will appreciate that you were upfront with them and will trust you implicitly.
These are some of the ways through which you can build up that trust and in the process and lay the foundation for a good strong relationship.